To Contact Old Friends

 I am not the kind of person who gushes over friends and keeps a long list of contacts I write to every single day. I have people I keep close to myself, who I see often enough. I guess I should be the kind of person who puts down roots and doesn't move around a whole lot, but I am the person who moves, a lot.

I suppose one of the joys of loosing contact is regaining contact after many years. I have been doing exactly this over the years. I contact friends I went to school with or trained with and have a good time chatting about what we have been doing. Some people I am happy to hear have not moved on because they were.... less than the best of friends. I am glad to hear others do well or at least make ends meet because they changed who they are. Some I am happy to hear from in general because they were and still are good people.

Back from fishing

I have been many things. Right now, I am a fisher man. I work on the long line fishing ship Hoyvikingur, a Faeroese ship.
I came back yesterday after two trips of two weeks and four days, respectively.
The work isn't my favorite, but I do not need to enjoy my job to do my job. It pays the bills. But the worst is both coming back to a very lonely Christmas eve and the constant headache and unease after overcoming the acute sea sickness.
I know she is going to see this. I know she will hold it against me for saying this publicly, but I need to let this out and she cannot expect complete privacy in cases like this.

I have three sons. I love them dearly but I am only allowed visitation. It was agreed that I would get to see them every weekend in arbitration. She told me, the night I got back, three days before Christmas eve, I wouldn't get to see them on Christmas eve because her parents do not like me. She further tried to justify her position by saying I shouldn't care since I am atheist and do not celebrate Christmas (in her world), which boils down to 'I am not christian enough for her to see the kids on Christmas eve'.

After protesting and threatening to hold her to the terms of the agreement which pointedly ignores holidays and anniversary like birthdays due to her protests to my request holidays are split, she says I was inattentive to what she said and says she thought about ice skating Friday or something on Monday, but was reconsidering in the face of my protests and threatened to not let me see the kids for three weeks if I didn't shut up, which is in it self a violation of the agreement..